Was just reading Liying's blog, Although yesterday's post was already a close chapter but i really think that the Quote from "Dinah Mulock Craik" makes total sense. And totally true!!

"Friendship is the comfort, the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but pouring all right out just as they are, chaff and grain together, certain that a faithful friendly hand will take and sift them, keep what is worth keeping and, with a breath of comfort, blow the rest away."

Dad told me that he had a group of close to 20 friends at the start, but as time past, these 20 became 6! Those who couldn't click along or was missing when one was in help was slowly POOF.POOF. away! But that did not stop them from contacting the others. Some point or another in life, they would still call and ask about life, or invite them to Child's birthday or small gathering. And as time catch up, all grudges will fade away by themselves.

And like liying said, "is it possible for woman to hold that same of a friendship as guys do?".
That will depend and i think time will tell everything. But then again, what dad said was true, when woman become attach to their MARRIAGE/CHILDREN life, they tend to put all their time and energy into it that they are left with no "FRIENDS" time, much less their own time with themselves. But then again, why can't woman also divide up their time for friends. Hopefully, all my close girlfriends will lead a TAI-TAI life, then PROBLEM SOLVE :) I say until like so easy. But i guess, TIME will tell!

Anyway, that time has not come and won't be coming anytime soon. Unless "any" of you get married like when you're 21 or something! And until then, i will PROMISE to be the sole CONTACT-ER! Making sure that we keep in touch. hahaha.

After blogging this post, i had a urge to recall all my friends since i was born! Well, i have this group of CHILDHOOD friends. Which we use to grow up together, parents use to be friends, and then us and all. Although as we age, we don't see each other often but then the memories of our younger days stays in our hearts.
And then comes a bunch of HAPPY-GO-LUCKY primary school mates which i kind of lost contact with once i was in Sec school and now back again, thanks to facebook! Back in primary school, all we ever thought of was having fun. NO problems, no stress, no nothing. JUST FUN! Most to most is the I DON'T FRIEND YOU, and after a while i become your friend! And you don't have to be friends for very long and it feels like Best friend forever and ever and ever and ever...
And then SECONDARY school, which i can proudly say that was the WORST FRIENDSHIP PROBLEM i ever face in life. HONESTLY, being a very sociable person, getting along with people was never my problem. Just that i can be picky with my friends la, But other than that, being able to socialize = NO problem for me. But in secondary school, Problems after problems i face. Maybe because we all were girls, and being typical girls, we GOSSIP, get JEALOUS, get COMPETITIVE, and more GOSSIP! Starting of Sec 1, i was top of the world and then middle of the year i became BOTTOM of all! And then i learn that in life, not everything goes my way, and many fruitful life lesson that no one could ever taught me. And that's where everything started to change around, the people who once was top of the world was down and the down ones became up. I watch every single one, stumble and fall, and pick themselves up again. And this is a place that i met LIFE-LONG FRIENDS. Friends that i can depend on if i need help, friends that i know will be there for me. Friends that i really treasure. Although i would frankly say, i'm not surprise that one day these friends turn their back on me, which i would feel very sad :( but then again,. that's life. If life is always very happy, won't we living it be bored?!
But, i think after we graduated, things became much much better. The friends that i had but wasn't really there was now here for me. (FIANCEE AND BGFF). And there were the girls who always was there for me.. and some friends who i had so much problem with in Sec school, that when we gradated the friendship was MIA, NOT LOST, just MISSING IN ACTION. AND not forgetting the classy-mates! Although the rest were not my CLIQUE mates, but some was there when i needed them even though my clique was with me. And not everybody know, but these people are equally important in my life.
Dione,Bridget,Siti,Sinthu,Cathrine, Shiting, were people that have help me in school days. And i appreciate them!
Well, i guess somethings are worth waiting, some are not. And at times, what we need to do, is to just stand back and then we will be able to see the picture. And that is where TRUE FRIENDS are found. NO MATTER WHAT, SECONDARY SCHOOL DAYS WERE CHAOTIC BUTTT I LOVEE IT! Best LIFE experience:)
And finally, comes my Collage life. Totally different, you don't have to do anything to not have the unwanted person in the group cause everyone tends to be more pro-active, including the unwanted person. And things are more straight-forward. Suitable for me personally. And here is also where i forgot my principle in life and almost fall into a BIG TRAP but was saved! WHich spells NO RELATIONSHIP FOR ME TILL A LONG LONG TIME! At least when i'm retired at 30+. And also where i met friends like Brendan AND Nur. Friends that bring me back to reality and although we know each other for only sometime, it always feel so strong with them (at times)! :) Maybe because what i'm going through was what they went through so they can always give me constructive comments. But is not always up, cause our age gap is pretty far at least 4-5yrs. So at times there's where our disagreement are and all. BUT other than that, i'm happy to meet them :)

So, in life, friends comes and goes. Some stay and some goes but friends are also important in life. Therefore, i don't think its wrong to choose your friends. Friends comes in different categories, "Friends that benefit you". "Friends you benefit" and "Friends that you benefit and they benefitting you"! All these are important. You have to have a equal balance in these then will you be able to lead a much happy friendship life :)

With that, i wish all my friends, TO STAY HAPPY ALWAYSSS!!!!!!